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unless it’s to ask for money. I’m interested in actually talking fr with a woman from this scene and eventually meeting irl once both are comfortable with that. I’m not sure why I’m missing from my profile or what else I should be doing. I send DMs which are low pressure and polite. I don’t ask for anything in DMs, I participate in forums on other sites. I get the odd DM reply and sometimes it does go a bit further but it always eventually fizzles out. I’m not complaining but I am asking for genuine feedback.

I think the website lowkey doesn't have that many users anyway

There aren’t as many of us from the UK around, which makes it harder to find people nearby to meet up with in person.

I’ve tried organising a few in person meetups like we used to, but haven’t had much luck as people say they are interested and then bail or ghost. I think it’s just how people are now, everyone seems more comfortable keeping things online, especially since we’re all glued to our phones haha.

The site has so many different uses and there are a lot of people here that are only interested in obtaining / viewing content from others or selling it, and the sense of community and options for dating and friendships sometimes feel like they don't exist. But opportunities are there...sometimes if feels like a needle in a haystack situation. I think you're doing the right thing reaching out to people you're interested in chatting with, and keeping it light hearted. Just keep at it and I hope you find someone lovely to chat with soon!

If I had to give one bit of advice, I’d say add a few pics as that will help people get a better feel of you.

i also get the sense that many users log in, poke around, and they don't return for weeks or months at a time. It's happened more than once where I'm mid conversation with someone, then the responses stop out of the blue. and their log in time thing says "rarely" or something like that. It's annoying and discouraging and is one of the reasons I'm not here as often. I've been lucky to make a couple of friends thank goodness.

Wait until you are 75 years old, and you really won't get any replies at all.

Hii, you seem to be super cute tho . I think it's just that the community is pretty small and it's sometimes kinda difficult to find people around you . But I'm sure you'll meet someone soon enough!

Some people like me don't interact as often anymore due to the toxicity in the community. As an neurodivergent person I just encountered a abliest comment today which makes me regret going on that thread. It seems every where I go I will always see someone using disability as an insult to make their argument more spicy.

I get loads of messages that just say hi hru. Take the time to give people an idea of what you want and to sound interesting. I think a lot of people including me just don't feel like replying to those plain messages.

Yeah, you definitely get the impression sometimes that the site here is just dead. Some people still post because they have orbits of followers but the rest of us... The platform just isn't conducive to it. The UI sucks too and the message limit is kind of insane.

Things definitely used to be much different. I think a lot of the userbase is concentrated in America and in my experience, once people start approaching their 30s, they're less inclined to get serious with someone who lives so far away.